One other thing to realize: Although they offer downtrodden people advice on how to make their existence more tolerable, the Stoics are by no means in favor of keeping these people in their state of subjugation. The Stoics would work to improve their external circumstances, but at the same time, the Stoics would suggest things they could do to alleviate their misery until those circumstances are improved.
Note: so this isnt about acceptance in some passive acqueiescent way but about awareness and perspective. we can change the circumstances as stoicism is not aescetic but our circumstances are sweeter when we see them for what they are.
Epictetus points out, “It is impossible that happiness, and yearning for what is not present, should ever be united.”3 A better strategy for getting what you want, he says, is to make it your goal to want only those things that are easy to obtain—and ideally to want only those things that you can be certain of obtaining.
Note: does this make us passive, unlikely to stretch, to grow, to FAIL?
In conclusion, whenever we desire something that is not up to us, our tranquility will likely be disturbed: If we don’t get what we want, we will be upset, and if we do get what we want, we will experience anxiety in the process of getting it.
Note: is there anything solely internal? my body may fail, even my mind may fail...so what is left?
Epictetus thinks that in our practice of Stoicism, we should be so inconspicuous that others don’t label us Stoics—or even label us philosophers.8
Note: interesting...perhaps this is why nobody knows anything of stoicism!