According to the Bible, God devised marriage to reflect his saving love for us in Christ, to refine our character, to create stable human community for the birth and nurture of children, and to accomplish all this by bringing the complementary sexes into an enduring whole-life union.
The divorce rate is nearly twice the rate it was in 1960.3 In 1970, 89 percent of all births were to married parents, but today only 60 percent are.4 Most tellingly, over 72 percent of American adults were married in 1960, but only 50 percent were in 2008.5
First, he locates the very basis of our identity in the power of promising:   Some people ask who they are and expect their feelings to tell them. But feelings are flickering flames that fade after every fitful stimulus. Some people ask who they are and expect their achievements to tell them. But the things we accomplish always leave a core of character unrevealed. Some people ask who they are and expect visions of their ideal self to tell them. But our visions can only tell us what we want to be, not what we are. Who are we? Smedes answers that we are largely who we become through making wise...
Note: I am not my feelings, my accomplishments, or my dreams. I am my promises.
My wife has lived with at least five different men since we were wed—and each of the five has been me.
Note: My wife has lived with at least 5 different men since we wed - and each of the 5 has been me.