You can’t settle for reaching other people’s limits. You have to reach yours.
The anxiety of the flinch is almost always worse than the pain itself. You’ve forgotten that. You need to learn it again. You need more scars. You need to live.
You need to build a habit of seeing the flinch and going forward, not rationalizing your fear and stepping away.
What the flinch just did to you, it will do to your whole life, until you stop it.